Time flies so quickly that we sometimes also do not see how our children mature. At the matured daughter some psychological problems can be shown. As a rule, many parents do not notice them.
Instruction
1. The girl had the sekretyochen often it begins to occur when to the daughter 11-12 years are executed. At this age she can close a door to the room, silently long sit in thoughtfulness and especially not communicate. It begins to upset parents, of course. They prick up the ears. And then at them the alarm of parting about which they do not even know joins. Business all that the girl just leaves the child with age. She feels loneliness, alarm or fear of the future, but for her it is normal therefore when mother approaches and will ask for the daughter to tell the truth that happens to it, the child will be perplexed: about what you, mother, unless not so? What to do? Let it and be difficult, but it is necessary to belong to the daughter's secrets without alarm. It is necessary just to tell it approximately following: if you want to talk, know that I am near. Also will be useful to tell about own experience that not only to share with the daughter, but also and to let it know that her mother too the person.
2. If you did not have a private life, it is not necessary to be afraid of the fact that the daughter can repeat your mistakes. You remember, than more you adjust the child on the fact that he has to have everything in a different way, that high probability of the fact that the daughter will repeat your life. Surprisingly, but just installation also results in the same effect: I will not live as mother, I do not want to live so. If mother wants the daughter to live long and happily, it is necessary to change, first of all, most and to be engaged in own destiny.
3. Mother married again, and the daughter is jealous - a widespread situation. The loneliness and jealousy of the daughter is born when mother says: here I grew up you, now it is time and to think of himself. The teenager always needs attention of mother. It is not so difficult to extinguish jealousy of the daughter of mother, it is necessary to pay the attention to it only as much as possible. For example, to go together with it to cosmetic shop, to try on jewelry, to discuss fashion, to look through magazines and so on.
4. The daughter becomes reserved and says that she not such as all: ugly and clumsy. It is a standard complex among teenagers. At such moments all problems have very deep character – abandonment, loneliness. Mother needs to teach a lesson, very important for the daughter. It is necessary to tell her that it is unique and that it is necessary to fall in love with himself and the body. Show to the daughter what is the true femininity.
5. The daughter begins to deceive. It is extremely important to learn in what the lie reason. Perhaps, she is afraid or worries? Most likely, she is afraid, at teenage age children lie for self-defense. Most likely, mother needs to weaken a situation in which it brings up the daughter, to accept it such what it is, with all her acute angles.
6. Mother learned that the daughter skips lessons. Almost always the reason of truancies should be looked for at the school. Perhaps, there was a conflict about which the daughter does not tell. For example, the teacher shouted at her. Or what is also possible, the daughter lost any interest in study or a subject. Explain to the daughter that she attends school not for reproaches in its party, and for knowledge acquisition. Let it know that teachers the same people, as well as you. Teachers have principles, views and mistakes too. Try to find out why any given subject is uninteresting to the daughter. Perhaps, it is taught by the bad teacher? Also useful will be to tell the daughter about what you did in the same situation as tried to attract interest in a boring subject.
7. The daughter had a guy, but parents against the serious relations of the daughter with "such" guy. Never you say to the daughter that she should not steer clear of this guy as the daughter as a result will move away from you even more and something will not tell you. Do not send it to other cities or to the village to the grandfather, reasoning it with the fact that "you will have, at you all the same nothing will leave". Tell the daughter better about how to her to look after themselves. At dinner or a dinner remember her young man who such remarkable and polite. So you will give to the daughter other behavior model. Your most important task is to train the daughter in all measures of children's protection. You go to the children's gynecologist, to drugstore, talk to it on frank subjects. Try to avoid such subjects as "I adult and I precisely know how you have to live".