Cases of unfaithfulness are frequent, and it concerns not only men, but also women. Contrary to common opinion that "on others misfortune of the happiness you will not construct", the relations in similar situations develop very differently.
When it comes to lovers and mistresses, discussion usually goes from the person to whom changed. In such talk it is full of rage, reproaches and charges. About what is thought and felt by mistresses, think very few people, except them.
When the mistress can be happy
The main point capable to make the mistress (and any woman in general) unfortunate in the relations – feeling of a sobstvennichestvo. If it is absent, then there is no requirement that the man constantly was present nearby and paid attention only to it. Then partners meet as the independent people respecting each other, well spend together time, get feelings which are not enough for them in family life, and quietly disperse prior to a new meeting.
In the similar relations for the woman such pluses as lack of need to constantly conduct economy, to watch the house, to redistribute the personal budget for the benefit of family are shown. The relations without attempts to make other person by the property are easy, romantic and do not become boring. It is important to lead the interesting and full life, but not to be dissolved in the man, hardly having time of its absence, and happiness will not keep itself waiting. The mistress who understands the superiority over the wife from whom the man aspires to her is happy, but is not obsessed that he all the same comes back home. That who treats the status the mistress/wife calmly is happy, and pays attention generally to emotions which she experiences. Also the woman who is not doing of the word "happiness" of a certain permanent heavy comprehensive concept which attributes have to be present at her life daily is happy.
When the mistress is unfortunate
The woman who being a mistress will be unfortunate hopes to become the wife or at least just only in the man's life. It sometimes happens, but the decision is given to the man hard and not quickly. Transformation of the relations into burdensome expectation will not lead to anything good for both. The relations where the woman completely "lost herself" and somehow exists from one visit of the man to another, too will be sad. Anyway, if you already became a mistress, live the moment. Derive pleasure in the present, be cheerful and beautiful, do not make plans how entirely to enslave the partner and to separate it from family. Take care of the own life and the life the most part of time and do not listen to those who speak about "others happiness". Everything is individual, people meet and disperse and as psychologists speak, in it there is nothing unnatural.