Many fathers ask a question: how to bring up the son the real man. How to make his childhood happy. That he lived a wonderful life, went to all countries, wrote the book or composed the song. That started the family and succeeded in life, but did not complain of the heavy fate and did not live off parents.
Instruction
1. To school do not allow the child too many liberties. Let it will be accustomed that parents – main. Never you say that there is no money for toys. One more toy it is impossible because and there is a lot of them. When parents decide to buy it then they will buy. And if there is a strong wish – let helps, does so that it was simpler to parents to earn on it. For example, let few weeks will wash the floors or the dishes.
2. At school age gradually you enter conditions after which performance it can do what wants. Wants to walk till the night – let at first will make all lessons. Wants to carry favourite things, let erases them. Wants to go to sections – write down it. It will not be pleasant – do not force. That the child was not found with suspicious acquaintances, teach him to some hobby. To design robots, monsters to draw, kindle fires and to put tents. If the boy makes something itself and will want to brag, praise him and at once criticize: "Here at you it turned out well, and here it is bad, try, and a fine job will be got!"
3. Trust the son. Do not empty its pockets in search of cigarettes if noticed that he smokes – these can only break his trust to adults. Set it a good example: if you forbid it to watch constantly TV, do not do it. Never swear in the presence of the son. He has to see that parents always are at one. It is possible to solve the conflicts and on the street or when the son at school. And never abuse the son at strangers – he has to have the honor.
4. Give to the child pocket money. But never control what he spends them for. Set to him a monthly limit, let spends economically. To the 8th class itself let on this money buys notebooks and stationery. Then – I go in the dining room and clothes to myself. Will want – will spend everything in one day, and then goes hungry. Will want – will save and will buy the computer. If not enough pocket money, prompt as well as where to earn, help it to find something. The assistant in car service, the cleaner in hairdressing salon or the gardener in ZhEK, for example.
5. Be at one with the son. Take him on fishing, you repair with him its moped, teach him to small household repair. Tell about relationship between young people and girls, about sex. About what to do on the first appointment, on the second and on the third. What flowers to buy what to present to the girl for a holiday or a birthday. Buy condoms and explain what with them to do and as. Accustom him to sport, tell how to pump up muscles, teach several techniques of karate. Explain everything that you know about use of the computer, about the Internet and programming. If you are able, teach him to play the guitar. Do not hesitate to go with him to concerts of fashionable groups, to soccer and hockey.
6. By 17 years rent to it apartment that it was accustomed to live independently. Find through acquaintances to it work part time and warn that if he does not get on well at the university or at school, all this will end. And by 20 years tell that money for payment of the apartment ended. Will come home drunk or at night – leave it on the landing. After one such lesson he will remember what to remain sober simply, it is simple to call and warn parents too.