About such concept as the pickup or technology of seducing, have heard a lot many. This phenomenon among youth is especially widespread. But what enters its basis? Why men and women reciprocate to professional pikaper? And what skills need to be had to tempt the person who was pleasant to you? Give about everything one after another.
The NLP equipment in seducing
Neurolinguistic programming is a basis of the majority of methods of seducing. This concept of the hidden influence on thinking was created in 1975 by group of the American psychologists and is used as universal remedy in many areas of the human relations.
If to consider seducing as communication between the man and the woman, then its structure will look approximately as follows:
- Contact
The NLP can be used at all stages of communication, but the defining factor is programming here. What does it represent? Pikaper influences consciousness of the victim by means of the speech, gestures and touches. The body of the victim in each case is a peculiar card which mastering yields desirable result.
Each NLP equipment is based on a certain sequence of the actions directed to achievement of concrete result. Now there is several main a technician:
- calibration;
- modalities and systems of representation of experience;
- access keys;
- NLP presuppozition;
- glazodvigatelny patterns;
- fine tuning (on a body, breath, a rhythm, a voice, keywords);
- anchoring, work with anchors (collapse, integration, pile and chain of anchors);
- submodalities (contrast analysis of submodalities, identification of a critical submodality);
- change of beliefs with use of submodalities;
- emotional blowing;
- metamodel (lack of information, restriction of model of the interlocutor, semantic violations);
- the turned Metamodel;
- Milton's model (indirect messages, built-in messages and hidden teams, uncertainty and vagueness of expressions);
- formation of a trance (rupture of a template, distortion of reality, etc.).
How to use the NLP equipment in the pickup?
In the pickup only some of the listed receptions are used and their small modifications. To seize them will not make big work. Therefore we will consider only the main methods of seducing which the majority of pikaper uses.
- Destruction of the current relations. Let's say you are already familiar with the girl, and you hear that she has a guy and it is better not to meet to you. In this case it is possible to use a technique of The boyfriend destroyer. Its essence consists in the hidden hypnotic impact on subconsciousness, for the purpose of advance on the second plan of an image of the guy in consciousness of the girl. It is possible to make it in several ways:
- if your task to take its phone number or to invite to an appointment, and it says that it already has a guy, answer approximately following: It is not surprising that such beautiful girl has a guy. You for certain value yours with him the relations. I appreciate fidelity in girls. But present that suddenly you wanted to spend time with me. Present that we walk together and cheerfully spend time. Perhaps, we approach to each other. If you can present it, then we should meet. Tomorrow during the lunchtime will suit you?. After such disguised text the girl will hardly refuse to meet;
- one more reception is calibration. In this case it is important to you to watch a condition of nonverbal signals of the girl and at the same time to use turns of speech like: Present that … and some gestures of hypnosis.
- The equipment is closer-is farther. It is considered purely women's, but it can be used also by men. Its purpose is the aspiration to interest the attracted person and to hold it near itself.
- the stage is Closer characterized by process of courting, gaining interest, attempts to approach, achieve trust and special attention to a desired object;
- the stage consists Further in special decrease in interest in the person whom tried to win before. Here avoiding of meetings, reduction of attention, etc. is used. Such sharp cooling gives effect of an ice shower and if the victim chosen by you herself begins to show activity and attention, it is possible to begin the next stage Closer. And then the victim will begin to play by your rules, and you will feed it with various illusions.
- Removal of a Mask equipment. It is used by those who do not want to show real face of the vulnerable, sensitive and romantic person at once. Actions have to be approximately such: during acquaintance it is necessary to make an impression of cool macho and if it attracted interest, it is necessary to follow the chosen image until the object chosen by you gets used to it. Your image has to be fixed in the head of the person who was pleasant to you. As soon as it occurs unmask and behave usually. It will cause at least shock and a dissonance in consciousness of your victim. Further it is useful to dress and break sometimes both masks constantly to maintain interest in the person.
- Speech and hypnotic technicians. Are used at the very beginning of manipulation of consciousness. Here such methods as an otzerkalivaniye of gestures, fine tuning belong to breath, movements, the partner's pose, a rupture of templates and change of reality.
All these technicians are based on what the majority of the actions of people makes automatically, unconsciously. If to destroy at least one of templates of the person, then at the moment of his confusion it can inspire anything. For example, copying (i.e. otzerkalivy) gestures, poses and other movements of the person it is possible to gain easily of him the confidence.
Even without knowing also a half professional the technician of the NLP in the pickup, it is possible to tempt the persons who were pleasant to you easily. It is for this purpose rather simple to make unexpected acts and to surprise with something the person. Our mentality is so arranged that all new renders on us a bigger impression, and it is remembered much stronger, than ordinary events which already met. And time so, means it it is possible to use and influence those who were pleasant, winning interest and increasing self-confidence.