When the guy who was pleasant to the girl does not pay any attention to her, there are two ways: to be given and look for another or to begin to fight for love of the elect. All know that success of any fight in many respects depends on quality of weapon. This review about what receptions can be adopted to be pleasant to the man and from what, on the contrary, it is better to refrain.
How to be pleasant to the man on the first appointment
The first that needs to be understood: the universal way does not exist. Different men like different women therefore the choice of line of conduct is always individual. And still, gathering for the first appointment, some general recommendations should be adopted.
How to behave to hold its interest
First of all: it is useful to remember that in any man there lives the hunter. Production, itself going on a shot, deprives of him pleasure by own force, dexterity and the importance.
Whether you know? In the novel "Diamond Chariot" Boris Akunin with talent inherent in it very brightly described the most difficult science of seduction used by the Japanese geishas. At one of the first stages of this way the wise Japanese allowed the elect to save it from danger of death, well understanding that from the woman near whom the man felt the hero, it never just like that will leave.
However, ostentatious resistance not always pays off.
So, you should not rely on the following tricks:
- to make a date and not to come;
- not to pick up the phone to the fifth (sixth, tenth) it is ringing;
- to refuse physical proximity "prior to a wedding";
- to begin to flirt defiantly with another or to tell about the nonexistent admirer;
- it is unexpected to disappear for indefinite time.
Similar cunnings if work, then not long and only concerning so primitive partners therefore it does not have to be interesting to the girl respecting herself to be engaged in such manipulation simply. It is necessary to reckon also that during an era when gender distinctions are erased, the stronger sex does not look such strong any more.
Many men look for in the woman rather a mother on whose breast it is possible to hide from difficulties and dangers of daily occurrence. Such male will hardly fight for a female, he wishes to become a game.
It is much easier to win "male son", than "male father", but, indulging his complexes, it is possible to kill finally in him for the sake of what, actually, and the relations are under construction. A conclusion is simple: it is not necessary to be engaged in manipulations. That the interest of the man did not weaken over time, the woman should refuse policy of "a short lead".
Recommendations are simple:
- show that you respect him "personal space" (a sit-round gathering with friends, fishing, etc.), but you demand the same in relation to yourself;
- be not persuasive, do not ask questions which he is not ready to answer, you do not press;
- refrain from excessive revelations in the first evening — so you keep a veil of secrecy and do not tire the partner with information unnecessary it;
- you do not ask to give you a gift or to solve your problem, especially if this task can be difficult feasible for the man;
- let's have a rest from itself — you do not call and do not look for a meeting after the first appointment, at least within several days.
Important! The man will want to continue the relations rather if they do not oblige to anything him. Having felt that around him the ring contracts, he will try to be released.
What it is the best of all to put on
How to put on on the first appointment, depends on many factors. However, anyway, the clothes have to be stylish, convenient and suit you. The clever woman has to be able to emphasize all advantages of the appearance by means of clothes and as much as possible to hide shortcomings. Existence of taste — here what first of all it is necessary to show to the elect.
When choosing clothes it is also important to consider the following rules:
- Excessively short skirt or a defiant decollete even if they show an ideal figure, it is worth reserving till the best times. The purpose of the first appointment is to know better each other, but not to show all the "trumps".
- Heavy boots and shapeless jackets in style a la Zhanna Aguzarova as practice shows, delight not all men therefore it is also more expedient to postpone shocking for the future.
- What is suitable for a visit of restaurant will look ridiculously if it is about the invitation to a skating rink. It is not necessary to try to choose the most beautiful dress — it is much more important that the dress looked organically in the offered circumstances.
Skilled heartbreakers recommend for the first appointment to put on a skirt to a knee to give the chance to the partner to admire the legs, without risking to seem at the same time vulgar. Other ladies, on the contrary, specially choose as maxi, leaving the maximum field for imagination. As for color scale, it is the best of all to give preference to clothes of pastel tones though, of course, strict rules in this question do not exist.
What to speak about precisely to be pleasant to the guy
The girl who wants to be pleasant to the guy needs to say as little as possible. The ability gives almost absolute guarantee of success is interested to listen, periodically interrupting the interlocutor with the specifying questions and enthusiastic remarks.
Important! The favourite subject for any person is he, his hobbies and interests. Knowing this simple truth and skillfully using it, it is possible to be pleasant without effort to anyone that Dale Carnegie in the well-known book "How to Win Friends and Influence People" convincingly proved.
To win over the guy, it is not obligatory for girl at all to begin to understand soccer or cars, studying standings and studying special literature. It is only enough to show that this subject attracts interest of it, and careful questions to push the elect to begin to tell about what occupies it above all. And when he will ride out the favourite fad, the girl will need only to listen with a keen look. Do not doubt: after such appointment the guy will be sure absolutely that the destiny pitted him against surprisingly clever woman even if for all evening she did not tell it and ten phrases.
One specification: in order that the program worked, it is necessary to listen with sincere interest, but not to represent attention. If the guy is pleasant, his hobbies need to try to be divided. After all, something is useful to learn new always and if it tells nothing clever — it is possible, this is not that man whom you looked for.
How to attract to the adult and married man
Wishing to subdue the man is much more senior than himself, especially, burdened with family bonds, the girl should think of the purpose of similar actions. The sociology demonstrates that though most of married men, sacredly believing in the polygamy, quite easily go on an adultery, they, as a rule, do not hurry to start a new family with the young mistress.
But having even pushed darling to a divorce, the woman risks to face an array of problems — alimony, the section of property, scandals from the ex-wife, experience of the spouse because of parting with children, etc. The aspiration to attract men's interest of own chief to achieve career development — too the plan very doubtful.
First, it is difficult to the boss who burned from desire to refuse logical continuation of the relations, especially if to herself the employee provoked attention. Secondly, cases when, having satisfied the passion, the chief tries to get rid of imposing the overestimated requirements of the subordinate — thus are frequent, instead of promotion the woman has the return result.
As for tactics of seduction of adult men, it differs in nothing from "hunting" for young men. Sometimes it is simpler to attract a mature male even as, entering notorious "crisis of middle age", many men feel the real horror before the future old age and look for an occasion to prove to itself that they still "are capable of a lot of things". The attention of the very young girl is in that case paid better than any medicine.
Important! The best and reliable way to be pleasant to the chief is to show the professionalism and to show good results of work. The personal relations if they are tied on this base, are stronger, than based on primitive flirtation.
Several practical recommendations:
- Create to the man the atmosphere of a holiday. In the family relations usually there is no place left for romanticism, give it to the elect — and he with pleasure will swallow a bait.
- Show that you do not count on the serious relations, you do not demand any obligations and you do not expect a divorce.
- Do not burden the man with household problems. On the contrary, try to help him to solve — to choose its own a gift for the wife, to buy the ordered products, etc.
- Refrain from criticism to the spouse of the partner. Even if he at your presence abuses the wife, take the her part (the man will estimate it).
How to be pleasant to the man in a bed
The known formula that the woman has to be a lady in the living room the hostess in kitchen and the courtesan in a bed, of course, has under itself the reasons. However it is absolutely clear that all women cannot correspond to all three of these criteria.
Yes it it is also not necessary — especially as the absolute relaxedness, unbridled passions and unrestrained appetite shown by the partner in the first in common spent night with equal probability can both bring the man into full delight, and to frighten off it. However and the ostentatious chastity, is equal as total absence of sensuality and obedient expectation of the end of "process" — too a bad way to hold to itself interest. The best line of conduct in a bed is a lack of pretense and hypocrisy. Listen to language of own body and learn language of a body of the partner.
Show tenderness and attentiveness, you do not hurry to show mad delight from everything that it does, tactfully direct and correct it if it is necessary, but at the same time show readiness to understand and execute his desires — perhaps, what he does not guess yet. The man will surely estimate such woman and will want to meet her again.
Important! It is not necessary to treat sex as to sport and to turn a bed into the place for mutual demonstration of technical skills and acrobatic abilities — as a rule, the similar technique does not lead to the strong relations, and partners leave, not too happy with each other.
Several practical recommendations. That the first sexual contact with the pleasant partner did not become the last, it is necessary to follow several simple rules:
- put on linen new, qualitative, suitable by the size, erotic, but by no means not provocatively vulgar (everything is good in its season);
- tights or stockings — absolutely new, any arrows and folds;
- the body has to be ideally clean, and legs, an underarm and a zone of bikini — clean-shaven (men, contrary to the existing opinion, are often very fastidious);
- you should not abuse perfumery: too pungent smell can be unpleasant to the man or even to cause in it an allergy, and here the thin, hardly notable aroma of expensive spirits mixed with a smell of a female body will become excellent aphrodisiac;
- it is the day before also best of all to refrain from adoption of a large amount of alcohol, and it concerns both partners (intoxication reduces sensuality though, apparently, and aggravates desire).
Whether you know? In 2004 the impressive result shown by a certain Lisa Sparxxx was recorded in the Guinness Book of Records: within one day this pornstar managed to satisfy 919 men, and the corresponding video which recorded all sexual intercourses without interruption served as the proof of a record.
In what to go houses to be pleasant to the husband
In the analysis of methods of seduction of married men it was already mentioned that one of the reasons for which it is easy to incline "married men" to an adultery besides true or imaginary polygamy, is very fast transformation of family life from the romantic relations with the beloved in sad everyday life.
It seems to the banded male that he is perceived not as hero, the sexual partner and the defender any more and as the operated object necessary to take out garbage, to hammer a nail, to bring home potato and money. The woman, having become the wife, really, its most terrible mistake often begins to concern the husband as to the property, and in it. Considering that now there is no need to be pleasant to the partner as "where he will get to", wives sometimes push spouses in embraces to very young predators who have what the man, having married, unexpectedly lost. Even if the novel on the party will not end with a divorce, to observe on own head ornament in the form of horns, we will agree, not really pleasantly.
In spite of the fact that women in modern conditions work on an equal basis with men and, besides, are in most cases forced to bear completely on themselves all burdens of a household, including washing, cooking, cleaning and education of children in order that the family was strong, and the husband after work aspired home, without glancing at the party — the clever wife has to try to look in house walls not less attractively, than in public.
It does not mean at all that the woman without a break should spend day in a make-up and to make a lunch in shoes high-heeled. But if you want to retain to yourself the interest of the husband and still to remain desired, forget about a dressing gown and the worn-out slippers! Also under a ban at its presence nutritious masochka on a face, hair curlers on hair and other tricks to which ladies resort to be beautiful, going outside. The husband should not know how your image is created, he needs to see only ready result.
Important! Each girl should remember that after the wedding of the relation do not come to an end but only begin. Therefore it is also important to be pleasant to the husband, as well as the man during the first appointment.
Having roused in the morning, at once wash, brush the hair and if you do not gather for work, put on in something convenient, but at the same time clean, ironed out and tidy (the house dress, leggings with a tunic, a trouser suit — is not important if only in such dress you looked stylish and attractively).
Do the same, having come back home in the evening. The woman who watches herself and does not dare to turn into the "sitting duck" exhausted with household chores remains young and seductive longer. The husband will be always proud of such wife, even without speaking to her it is opened, and having changed, with a bigger share of probability will not want to turn an accidental extramarital affair into something more serious.
How to understand that you were pleasant to the man
If the next morning after the first appointment the girl was woken by a call or the gentle message from the guy with whom she spent evening, there is no doubt left in feelings of the partner. But sometimes on behavior of the man it is difficult for woman to understand whether she could attract it. img hint=http://lovedame.ru/wp-content/uploads/2016/12/56465.jpg] id: 30337 [/img] Available interest in herself from the partner the girl can practically not doubt if it:
- in a conversation repeats its favourite phrases, copies intonation and gestures (the man can do it consciously or unconsciously, but the similar behavior is possible only concerning the person who really is pleasant to it);
- tries to look better at its presence — straightens shoulders, monitors the speech, or even changes former habits — for example, appears clean-shaven, etc.;
- during the meetings seeks to draw near closer;
- glances at it when as it seems to it, she does not notice it, but quickly looks away when she turns around;
- looks for a reason for communication (for example, is more often than usual asks it questions during the working day);
- during the conversation looks it in the face, periodically translating a view of lips;
- sharply becomes silent and it is lost at its emergence, or on the contrary, takes great pain to draw general attention to itself — a word, in the presence of the girl behaves not as behaved earlier, and continues to behave also when she is absent nearby.
It is a little simple to be pleasant to the man, it is necessary to win the man's heart.
Councils of skilled women
Well-known "femme fatale" (femmes fatale), wishing to take control of the man's heart, used different tricks.
Studying their experience, it is possible to formulate several useful tips for the beginning temptresses:
- You pay to the man compliments more often, without hesitating even of outright flattery. The statement that women are auditory, perhaps and is right, but it belongs to male half of humanity in a bigger degree.
- Convince yourself of own irresistibility. History proves that not ideal beauties, but those women who managed to inspire in the whole world the myth about the beauty were the most desired mistresses.
- Show to the man that he is interesting to you, but do not allow to understand that you are in love. Allow to win yourself, but keep in soul of the man of doubt that it managed it.
- Be rather clever to pretend to be silly. Let's the man prove to be in all beauty.
- Always meet the man in "vseoruzhiya": an ideal hairstyle, an appropriate make-up, the thought-over clothes.
- Let to the partner know that he is a master of the situation. Prompt it the correct decision, but so that he was sure that he accepted it.
- Do not allow the man to miss near yourself. Be different.
- Never roll up hysterics, do not sob and do not threaten with leaving. If decided to leave — just you leave.
Whether you know? In 2008 the Egyptologist of the Cambridge university Sallie Ann Ashton (Great Britain), using modern computer technologies, recreated shape of the famous Egyptian queen who managed to win the heart two bright, but absolutely opposite as men — the wise politician Caesar and the brave soldier Anthony. Our contemporaries were struck when it became clear that Cleopatra had quite ordinary if not to tell ordinary-looking, appearance.
Knowing some methods and cunnings, it is not so difficult to be pleasant to the man. It is much more difficult to manage to build up the strong and durable relationship based on mutual respect and ability to hear, understand, appreciate each other. As for seduction science, certainly, it is useful for any woman to study it — it is only important to understand that such knowledge is no more than one of bricks of creation of family happiness. Without deep feelings and readiness to divide with darling not only pleasures, but also heavy everyday life, all similar skills will be absolutely useless.