To teach the child not to be afraid - it is impossible. It is necessary to do something: not to pay attention, not to fear, not to think. The psychology of children, as well as adults, does not allow to strive for the negative goal. If the kid of something or someone is afraid, then councils of the psychologist come down to the fact that it is necessary to help the child to be courageous. Children's fears – almost obligatory phenomenon, almost everything face them. But the baby can quite overcome and embolden them.
Consultation of the psychologist
In a situation when the little person feels extremely strong children's fears, only change of methods of education in family will not help it to cope. It is better to ask for the professional help. Whether one-time consultation on which the psychologist will recommend what to do to parents, or a course of classes with the kid is required – the expert after the first meeting will solve.
Example of courage
The first step in fight against children's fears – courageous behavior of parents which will serve as a role model. Many mothers provoke, for example, fear of dogs at children. Instead of teaching the baby to stand or pass quietly by a dog, they sharply draw aside him, press to themselves and frighten by what the animal can bite. Seeing such reaction of the mom, the kid, certainly, too will begin to be afraid of dogs.
Uselessness of explanations
Any fear is an emotion which does not give in to action of reason. To explain free of charge fears it is useless. Those parents who show to the child who is afraid of "the podkrovatny monster" that under a bed there is nothing face it, for example. The son or the daughter just will not believe such arguments, and the emotion will not decrease at all.
Will make friends with fear
While the monster lives in soul and imagination of the child, he seems invincible, and with each address to him the fear only becomes stronger. To help the kid to become courageous it is possible, having made friends with children's fear. For this purpose perfectly the drawing approaches: to represent the one who lives in a case and frightens the baby. Drawn on paper it will not be so terrible any more. Then it is better to talk to such monster: why did it come? What wants? How to banish it or to agree to live in the world? All this dialogue should be lost together with the child.
To find out the reason
Any strong children's fears have a root in children's psychology, something in soul at the kid not so. Perhaps, it thus draws attention of the parent who is constantly busy, or the phobia turned out to be consequence of experiences in any occasion. If adults noticed that their child began something to be afraid very strongly, they have to find out whether there were no injuring events in life of the kid. It is easy to teach courage concerning some one aspect, but the children's fear will appear concerning something another if not to eradicate the reason of internal experiences.
Gradual victory
In situations when the children's fear is connected by something concrete (height, bathing in water, etc.), apply technology of gradual accustoming. The essence is in approaching frightening by small steps. So, if the child is afraid of height, it is not necessary to demand from him to rise by the highest hill at once. Let at first will stand on the first step, and next day will rise slightly above. Each time he will go further and further. The main thing is to take steps as much as possible imperceptible, then the baby himself will not notice how she eventually will get up at top of the mountain or a ladder.
Children's fears – the normal phenomenon of children's psychology. The parents who faced them will be perfectly helped by this advice of the psychologist. If experiences of the kid seem too strong, then it is better to address the expert.